For the majority of my twenties (and beyond the big 3–0 for some), I would rationalize all partying and invitations to socialize using a variety of FOMO-based ‘What If’s’, the biggest of which for me was, “What if I ‘meet someone’ there?”
But the older we grow, the more we get to appreciate how truly valuable our time is, and how important it can be to learn to filter out what we genuinely want to spend time on (and who we want to spend it with) from what we feel we may want to spend time on, but deep down…
While millions of us in economically developed countries wait comfortably on our sofas “for an advanced vaccine” that “doesn’t give us bad side effects” (or so some of the anti-vaccine arguments go), far more across the world are dying every single day while they struggle to procure enough vaccines to inject their people with just the first shot.
In Hong Kong, despite having originally ordered 7.5 million doses, as of May 2021 only a pitiful 20% of the population had sought to get injected with either the BioNTech or Sinovac vaccines. What’s worse, vaccines were due to expire mid-August.
For a big part of my early-to-mid twenties (*cough cough* and later twenties), my naïveté had led me to believe that no longer responding to people’s messages was just a normal, socially accepted part of our digital lives.
A quick exit that requires very little to no effort, without seemingly any consequences.
After all, what’s not to like about this approach to ignoring a human being whom we wish to never speak to nor see again?!
“Movies made me do it.”
We’ve seen the documentaries. We’ve read the articles. We’ve sat across that table once and have felt that unshakable sense of loneliness despite being two feet away from them.
Worse of all we, too, are guilty of unconsciously inflicting that same feeling onto others.
Despite being increasingly well aware of the notorious effects that most of our mobile apps have been built to produce, we can’t seem to (or just plainly won’t) change what we’ve been telling ourselves for some time — that we’ll spend less time on our phones.
There’s an abundance of coverage on this issue, yet it…
It is unarguably our greatest asset for survival and progress, yet we take it for granted, not appreciating its immense power that remains untapped, rotting within the confinements of our own consciousness.
It’s easy to attribute success to what we know to have contributed to it — whether it be our physical strength, our ability to analyze and process information quickly, or any other quality that defines who we are as an individual.
The same goes for the unsuccessful.
We correlate our lack of interest, care, or elements that are outside of our own control closely with failure.
As time passes and people around the world eventually begin to adapt to their new way of life, chances are, ten years from now, many of us will most notably remember the start of this decade as the unprecedented health crisis that wrecked families and nations worldwide.
For some, COVID-19 alone will be the highlight of their 2020.
Others may remember it for its U.S. elections and the ever-rising popularity of spreading misinformation and disinformation.
Chances are, you’ve heard the saying, “There’s plenty of room at the top.”
As it turns out, there really is.
This has been repeatedly expressed by top leaders in business, management, and general self-help books for decades.
And it remains very much relevant today.
Most big jobs — whether it be running an early-stage start-up or multinational corporation, government, military, high-level selling, or taking control your own life’s fate — demand people who aren’t just good at delegating tasks over to others.
After all, you can’t just leave everything up to the ‘Big Guy’ upstairs to determine how your life…
It happened in our first-ever presentation to our classmates; our first-ever presentation to the Board of Directors; when our name was called on stage to give a speech at a conference or a local community event, and in any other occasion that involved our having to speak in front of an audience.
For the “untrained” mind, a plethora of self-doubting thoughts rushes through our veins the second we’re presented with the opportunity to share our ideas with others.
“What will they think of me if I lose my thoughts and stutter?”
“What if I have something in between my teeth?”
It’s no surprise that when January 1st comes around, “getting more exercise” or “going to the gym more consistently” tops most New Year resolution lists, once again, year after year. In 2017, the global health and wellness industry was worth $4.2 trillion.
But there’s another goal that seems to be getting increasingly more attention: reading.
Whether you’d like to dive into mindfulness more seriously, invest your money like Warren Buffet, learn how your cat is plotting to kill you, or finally get around to opening that Excel sheet that’s always looked so evil to you, chances are there’s a copy…
Let’s journey back to a few months ago.
It’ll take a few minutes, but it’s all for the greater good of the story.
However, if you have to rush to work or you feel like your attention span is struggling between spending an extra 2 minutes on Medium and going back to your Instagram feed (or something a little more valuable), you can skip to “Part III — Gnocchis That Rocked My World.”
One evening in early November, I found myself opening up to a total stranger at a fundraising gala dinner about my personal life after several glasses of…